It is not selfish to do things to grow and cultivate ourselves or our relationship with our partner. It is a vital component to the growth of our children that we as mamas remain grounded and centered with a strong sense of self and sound relationships with our partner. Make a list of the things you do that light you up, that center you, that make you feel cared for. Take a few moments at least a few times a week to do one of those things. YOU matter. YOUR partner matters.